Sunday, 13 April 2008

kissing the toad..


when i was in uni.. i always wonder when i see a somehow "mismatched" couple. sure kutuk punyela. my then big gob. we were always wondering, what on earth is that thing beside that babe???

as i grew older.. i begin to notice the more serious side of relationship has the same pattern too i.e. marriage. i start seeing couples where the wife is a hottie.. and the hubby.. nevermind (gob has shrink due to increasing volume of better things to do). i even see it in my friends.. i mean my peeps are hot.. and they had hot boyfriends.. but the ones they marry... hmmm...

its not until my closest peeps gets married..one after another..then i began to understand the science behind this. now look, m not saying their hubbies are anything but.. but to compare it relatively la kan to my hot hot shorties.. you pack of lads are one lucky lucky dude!! (and i love all of you for taking such good care of my peeps.. mwahmwah!)

today i came across this article.. it made sense. read on :

Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men

Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.

The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.

Researchers admit that looks are subjective, but studies show there are some universal standards, including large eyes, "baby face" features, symmetric faces, so-called average faces, and specific waist-hip ratios in men versus women.

Past research has shown that individuals with comparable stunning looks are attracted to each other and once they hook up they report greater relationship satisfaction. These studies, however, are mainly based on new couples, showing that absolute beauty is important in the earliest stages of couple-hood, said lead researcher James McNulty of the University of Tennessee. But the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a mystery.

The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.

Supportive spouses

McNulty's team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years prior to tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.

Researchers videotaped as each spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners were supportive of spouses' issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more often.

"A negative husband would've said, 'This is your problem, you deal with it,'" McNulty said, "versus 'Hey, I'm here for you; what do you want me to do?; how can I help you?'"

A group of trained "coders" rated the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks.

Trophy wives

Overall, wives and husbands behaved more positively when the woman was better looking.

The finding "seems very reasonable," said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral economics at MIT's Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management. "Men are very sensitive to women's attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men's height and salary," said Ariely, who was not involved in the recent study.

In couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one another. McNulty suggests wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands.

"The husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get," McNulty told LiveScience. "He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship."

Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, McNulty said. The "grass could be greener" mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage.

Physical attractiveness of husbands is not as important to women, the researchers suggest. Rather, wives are looking for supportive husbands, they say.

So it seems the mismatch in looks is actually a perfect match. "Equitable is unlikely to mean the same on every dimension," Ariely said during a telephone interview. "It just means that overall two people make sense together."

as for me.. *grin* m a great believer of pretty boys.. until bestie told me "get a caveman!!"

and i owe her pulut kuning for that... *LOL*

7 comments:

sugarysweet said...

life is a box of chocolates..
you'll never know what you're gonna get..
some may get 'patchi'..some may get just 'm&m's..
but we all love them just as much :)

seweng said...

:) nice one...

for me it's simple...smua yg berlaku adalah ketentuanNya...wlupun bgtu,manusia masih kene usaha kan...

little miss kechik said...

1. i luv my hersheys... yummmmyyyy!!
2. life is meant to be simple ek..

seweng said...

dear kechik...

its good to know that u're getting married...i ni je yg blum konfom2 lg biler ntah nak kawen...

sobsobsob...

little miss kechik said...

alahai.. you bukan mude rumaja lagi ke? lekkk aaaa... :))

a yummy mummy handbook said...

hehhe...where is my pulut kuning!!!...pluss dendang!

im glad u finally listen to me..hehehhehehehe...im kidding!!...
the 1st time i saw wan suap u nasik kandar pelita..i knew he was the one for u...soo yes...this one i forgot to tell u...and since everything is going so well..i guess i didnt need to :D i think u answered the one yourself..

So babe...im glad u have found your caveman!

so bile nak gi caving together????

little miss kechik said...

oh yea... how can i forget.. jadik lapar lepas gigit u at the cinema *LOL*

caving??? huarghhh!!! (manaa tabung tadi?? ooo dah kosonggg)